What brought you joy as a child?

Judy Davidson, founding member of Grief Hope Network shares the following insight that was helpful in her grief recovery.

Activities and hobbies can be just as important to your grief recovery as counseling.  Let’s face it, grief work can be un-fun.  Sometimes we need to take a break from individual or group counseling sessions, journaling, reading books etc… We also need an activity or hobby to look forward to that has nothing to do with the grief process.  If you currently don’t have one, start with an activity from your childhood that was a lot of fun and that you loved to do.

For example, I was an Irish dancer as a child and discovered a few years ago that I loved ballroom dancing after taking a free lesson.  My dance lessons are now one of the highlights of my week that I look forward to.  I grin from ear to ear the entire time I’m at the dance studio.  It’s cheaper and more fun than therapy!  The relationships I’ve formed with the instructors and teachers are like a second family to me.

Years before my son was born, (now 12) I was into long distance cycling and had trained up to completing a century bike ride.  This past month, I joined a local cycling club and started doing 30 mile rides (which kick my butt!)  But I’m having fun and meeting new people.

So, close your eyes and ask yourself:  What activity did I LOVE to do as a child?  What brings a smile to my face everytime I think about it?  Is there something that I’ve always wanted to try but have been putting off for one reason or another?

Consider activities that involve others for social interaction and physical movement for the feel-good endorphins like:

  • hiking, biking or swimming
  • dancing or drama class
  • walking or running
  • a group sport like softball, soccer, basketball, tennis or racquetball etc…

Triathlon : illustration showing the progression of Olympic triathlon showing an athlete starting, swimming, biking or cycling and finishing of with  a run. Stock Photo

You might also consider a hobby that brings you joy and relaxation like:

  • gardening
  • photography
  • arts or crafts
  • playing a musical instrument
  • finally writing that book that has been inside of you all these years

Make a list and reach out to a friend or family member that may want to join you as an accountability partner.  Commit to trying at least one new activity per week or month until you’ve found one that brings you joy.  It will be one small step for you and one giant step toward your grief recovery process.

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